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And once he got me its like he stopped trying altogether. All I did was sending a few text to cheer him on right before interview. If theyre repeatedly not answered, we assign all kinds of meaning to that (when there may be none at all). I need to somehow find out if he even cares to have a relationship with me its almost been a year . So its not just the guys who are making this the norm. I told him we are done and this not something Ill ever entertain and he lost me. Be aware, keep your emotions in check and stay in reality. Until one day, I was worried about him getting sick so I told him to take care of his health. Men my age on line dont really want a commitment. Best to you. I want to know if this is good mirroring or too much. I have been in a texting email and telephone relationship for 3 months. hence asked him to stop bothering me. Fast! I dont want to get too invested again. Good luck to you., Bp. Hi! Another 6 months later he wishes me merry Christmas and we chat and he briefly mentions that hes been going through his divorce settlement, and asks me for a drink, we agree after the school holidays. I was very honest in the beginning that I am not a fan of texting and need a call and a real date (coffee/drink). You did what you could. The issue here is that now that hes in Fla/Mexico, he NEVER texts or emails or calls. I felt shameless and I thought that he wasnt meant to be my bf. Hes just one guy. If youre looking for a meaningful relationship then, no, I wouldnt stay involved with him this way. He seems like a really great guy and I like him so far but we havent narrowed down a time to go out. This was five days ago and I havent replied. But after that we had some chances to meet again. Helped him get someone to fix his backpack and we really hit it off. The next week the texts tapered, and then he stopped responding. Lol. He said he still want to be in contact with me and wanted to meet me once his back in our place. In addition to this, I find him cute, Ive seen photos of him which are recent, he thinks Im attractive too and has made that clear on numerous occasions. I said thanks, so we exchanged messages for a week. That person is looking for that in you, too. Any advice would be greatly appreciated. But for now, sounds like youre just dating. Whaaaaa? Another friend made a joke about us being together and it carried through the evening. He has been on the site for some time and hasnt gone on a date. I think its just you want. Thanks for getting together with me, hope we can do something less explosive next time (other than shooting). The problem I see here (based on my limited scope of your situation) will show you the answers you're looking for: When a guy tells a girl he likes her it's a big deal to him AND if his feelings are not reciprocated in a way that he gets and understands that fact clearly - he will feel rejected and often hurt. Bp. However, Im not sure if Im wasting my time. He was also always the one to start the conversation, but i would make sure to text him sometimes first as well. Also, I did tell him up front what I was looking for at this age and that I want to have someone in my life. Thank you! Y/N was adopted for militaries, she's used to live in the General Headquarters and do (extreme) military training. Keep being open and trying to meet men. Later for it. That will always come first. Is that common for single dads?) Should I stop this overall? Anita Chlipala, licensed marriage and family therapist and author of First Comes Us: The Busy Couple's Guide to Lasting Love, Brenda Della Casa, relationship coach and author of Cinderella Was a Liar, Diana Dorell, intuitive dating coach and author of The Dating Mirror: Trust Again, Love Again, Maria Avgitidis, CEO of matchmaking service Agape Match and host of the dating podcast Ask A Matchmaker. You've agreed to end the relationship and move forward, but they keep sending the occasional text or photo along with a "This made me think of you," or "Missed you today." And dont like the way he canceled the supposed date. I do text him first when Im awake as by this time, he is through half his day. We live two hours apart and havent seen each other for about a month. I had gone across the street to meet my friend at a bar for dinner/drinks. I am attracted to this guy but I need to know for peace of mind too. We still text non stop and enjoy each other but we made plans for the following week after our date and he said he was too tired and so exhausted and that he feels terrible. However, we both lead very busy lives. I agree with you the the guy only uses text and never offers a date to go out with you.Then for sure he is using the lady as his spare tire. If you dont know his type you could misinterpret everything he says or does as it relates to you. I grew in admiration and respect for him. Move on! If your texts are just bull and he wont call hes basically saying he really isnt that interested in getting to know you. And we still text each other all day every day.so confused. When you ask, "If he texts me every day, does he like me?" that's your tip-off something isn't going right. He sends me texts when he wakes up and before he goes to bed. Hugs, Bp. NO! Bp. Bp. Is he being realistic or fantastizing? This screams NARCISSISTIC PERSONALITY DISORDER! Thanks again. You wont be losing anything. But like I advise in all my writing, just keep living your life instead of hanging on what one guy does. He shows signs through body language and speaking to me differently than others. Have a great week!. He has a speech impediment and told me its hard for him to get words out. . So while dating I only can meet up in my childless week. Move on to a man who is available and interested, ok? he make little remarks like what are you doing tonight and ill tell him nothing and he still doesnt ask me to do anything. I guess I dont know whether Im heading into the start of him pulling away as contact has been a little less or maybe I feel it more because it was more intense texting when we first meet and after dates. In fact, it's one of the reasons why women find bad boys so attractive. since I think he might have taken my message on IG as a professional usual connection message. The Theory, Explained, By subscribing to this BDG newsletter, you agree to our. I told him I needed more than a textingship. I told him i dont want to continue talking to him cos he literally can take hours to respond to one questions. We matched and then both were out of town for the holidays but chatting via text we really clicked. I think you may have misinterpreted my advice here. I suspended my match account after a few weeks of chatting with him because I couldnt cope with chatting to different guys when I was more interested in this one. Im confused, sad and kind of upset, as theres a great potential between us. Sounds like youre unsure about your relationship. (Actually I was so confused ). Weve exchanged a few texts since but I havent heard from him in two days. Is it bad to text him saying it is ok if he lost interest and let him know he doesnt have to text me just to be nice? One day when I was in his apartment and enjoyed his cocktails I was totally drunk then we had sex then. Nothing major, just hows ur day stuff. I am not sure! Is it a mans job to keep you entertained lest he be ignored or disposed of? Now leave the ball in his court. If you cant connect or dont hear back, you have your answer. I knew he could not contact me , because he was a doktor. Giving our professional lives, meeting two times in a month is already a burden on our schedules, so I need texting to stay connect with him. Should I just calm down and wait for it to play out or move on? This is a VERY typical reaction from a type two guy. It sounds like you have some kind of rigid rules that men must adhere to, including that they better be amusing or deep if they are going to text you. I dont know your past experiences, but to assume he just wants a chat buddy because he wanted to call you back once is being awfully tough. It is okay to be kind instead of putting guys through some kind of test. Bp. Thank you in advance to everyone who reads this and responds :) So I met a guy on Hinge, a dating app- we really hit it off and weve been texting everyday since September 2020. If you push him you can be pretty sure he wont be back in touch. First, as I said here, its not a good idea to talk for hours on an app. Yes, expect more. We talked for hours and in the mid, he was busy and he used to text me slowly but ofcourse there were less conversations! He has expressed his interest but cant get past previous heartbreak. Just let him know that you like him and are interested in getting to know him better. Wee have done this for a little over a month. If he keeps texting, then your suspicions are most likely correct. Which I suggest you do. He used texting to avoid full attachment and bolted. I did not get a response until 1 am. Id keep it that way with him and certainly introduce lots of other potential men in your life and youll be just fine. I am in America and he is in Europe. I like to keep this dating game with him but am I missing something? He preferred meeting for coffee. Be self-sufficient. I dated a guy for just over a month last year. 5) Youre best off finding people who are comfortable, open and honest with themselves (and you) to show themselves to you. hours and those so happened to be the days I didnt hear from him and one of those days he had the day off. After our first conversations, I just couldnt get him off my mind no matter the circumstances. Nonetheless meeting up kept becoming difficult. We had tons of fun and he texted me this morning with: Super fun to see you last night, lisa you are good company! He flirts. We texted from sun up until after 1 am everyday. He was very shy and did not know what to say. A very slow tennis match. He seems nice to talk to. So, no more of this, for me. You have to go on all you know, which is that he stopped being in touch. We agreed that having drinks from time to time is good and call it day. Hi Bobbi Find a man who will give back what you are willing to give. Although trivial, I would feel shame, embarrassment, rejection. Much thanks in advance! For most of us older gals its just not much of an option. Both time was fantastic. He lives back in my hometown, and Im three hours away, so weve only hung out twice. Hugs. Hi Mary. I have a client who because of COVID has been video dating with a man for 4 months. Okay, so I met this guy on a dating site and we connected and we met for coffee, connected in person and went out again the next day. If not, thats okay. Of course, that's much easier said than done, especially if you've already invested considerable time and energy into him. Bp. Would he be open to figuring out how you two could do that? He then would write let me join you and joke around. He doesnt call, just text. Hes feeling entertained and hes enjoying your responsiveness. We met once for coffee and text just about everyday. I met a guy online. That night I was busy and did not text him. Few days before the planned trip, he started to text less often; his messages became cold and eventually, he just stopped texting. Lots of reasons you may be holding on but you know the answer: You shouldnt be! So I left it and sure enough he texted me next day saying it was a misunderstanding how I never gave him chance to explain he was sorry etc. Thats way more fun! I think you know the answer: Yes. HELP WHAT SHOULD I DO NEXT!!! All I have to read is that you started with dirty texting. What does that mean exactly? Bp. Time to move on, live your life and look forward to meeting and getting to know the next guy. I, however, am in the midst of a dating phenomenon that could only occur in the age of social media. Love! My suggestion, Tell him youd like to meet up or stop communicating. Still, get the daily texts and funny cat videos. I should mention he has asked to meet up but I said no last-minute because I was hung up with assignments, I feel like its moving too fast. I like the advice to only see him once per week for the first 6 weeks and dont have sex for the first month. Lame. So, he kindly denied and it was really not a problem for me and i made sure he understood that. I have no idea other than he said his ex wife is giving him grief and he is stressed. I then said I had to get off as I was expecting another call. If he doesnt call you, just move on. Texts fit much better into the working days of busy professionals/single parents/most people, are easier to view during a meeting than listening to voicemail, and can be responded to more easily than voice calls in most situations. Can we make that work? Put it out there, sister, and give him the chance to say Y or N. Youll learn a lot by his response. For whatever reason, hes not available. He was a friend of a client who travelled to our country on business. I understand that, Darla! This guy I was talking to was living overseas away from his family, pursuing his passion, and truthfully not out there dating a bunch of women just to date. He is now home with his family for the holidays so I get that hes busy but he somehow doesnt even have the time to call me or FaceTime me and is acting different than normal including his texts, which used to be cute and lovey doves but now I just get a good morning and thats it. Love, Millie, Hi Millie. We have asked each other abt our dating lives in jest..I dont know what he thinks about usplus I hv issues to sort out.this is driving me crazy on what direction to takewhether to ask him outright..and even if v do confess I dont know whether I ll be b able to handle itI am scared whether I ll regret if I dont act upon.. .v both prob arent gonna be at this company for a long time . Assuming he was on a date! Sorry, I havent an idea of whats up. I recently got in a dating app again figured I try it again and it is literally the same bs men. Krystal I really have no idea. We have had a very sexual relationship by phone, text and twice in person. This call was not totally out of my comfort zone, as we grew up talking to each . He makes jokes about thumb wrestling for kisses and so on. That and the word relationship hardly go hand-in-hand. TMR339 10 mo. My sister tells me I am to naive which I am. Now he hardly texts and he has called maybe once and i missed the call. . Then drops things on me like Im such an inspiration and that no one knows him like I do. Or maybe he is a liar? I wonder if he likes me or not? We have so much in common. I thought wed probably get together again, but he committed the unforgivable sin: he texted me the next date and said Hows your day going?. Because nothing else has worked. I met this guy two weeks ago on a dating app. Its great that youre stirred! Im not sure why you want to end it. Set up time to talk. When you've been in texting contact with a guy and he suddenly disappears there's always a good reason for it and I'll go over with you all that I can to help you out. This is different. You dont want to waste your time with a pen pal, right? Bp. You are seeing spending weekends together, meeting each others familiesand since you live so far apart this is a perfect way to say youre thinking about one another, maybe do a little flirting, etc. 1) If he was that interested in you, he would actually arrange with you to meet in person, particularly as hes so shy to show you his face. If youve read the article I think you know. And the opposite happens too. Or am I reading too much into it? Best to you! I wouldnt keep up with the textingits not getting you anywhere. I went up that way twice once to deliver some goats and once to work. Bp. If you want something different youll have to have a conversation with him. Its hard to not only accept it but to also acknowledge the fact. We started texting. We were texting this entire time, very friendly. So I took a girl out on a date a couple days ago. To be 100% honest, I didnt read the entire thing. Oh goshso I would let him know when he texts that you enjoy hearing from him and really look forward to spending time with him again. Both divorced with kids since 2018. later he all of the sudden texted me again, asking if I would like to go out some time. We shared goals. This happens to the best of us. Sorry, Doesnt mean much. You really dont know this man. Tell them what you told me because youre right: Theres no substitute for an in-person date. Hi MS. Im so glad my advice helps you. later! So why in the world would I continue a conversation with a man halfway across the world, someone so unattainable? However, for the last two weeks Ive barely received any how are you or goodnight/goodmorning texts or heart emojis which I used to get. He says he is from Germany but that he lives in Florida but that he works in Mexico City. Recently I challenged him that clearly something else was going on an to get a hold of me when he was ready to engage.. then when I didnt hear from him I immediately retracted and said I was sorry that I just would love to meet the man I dreamed about ..ugghh. Weve had futuristic conversations. He has two kids by the way. First that ive ever truly connected with via messaging. All this filled with kisses and cuddling. and he was adiment about that in which he raised his voice at me. Awesome first date last Friday with daily texting since the date. I ignored the question and he sent another one later on, which was better and I responded. True to his claim, the texts was much better. You can learn from all of this experience. You know, this sounds like it could ultimately be the real deal. He had random ideas for what we could do for when we get back to college, but and he texts wyd. Over a matter of a few weeks, he went from acting excited to see her and pursuing her to spacing out dates. Another date? I never invited him in as Im divorced but my husband lives in the house still so I cant! Just last month now, and he wants to know these things in a month after we for three months now coming up texting. Thanks theman! At some point I started talking about dating (apps) and asked if he is back in the game to get bit of an idea what he wants. Not exactly tranquil in mine either, but thats another story and not nearly what hes going through. You have a crush. Bp. Talked about how great of a time we had. Sorry, but if he were interested hed be in touch. I leave a few hours before replying to him, but then he texts back instantly. It is 3 nights he hasnt texted, I am thinking if I should text him and see how he is or better to wait and hear from him? I should say we both had a rough year he finally departed from the ex and I had a disasterous five months relationship where the guy rushed in and rushed me too fast. What I would do is ask him to Skype more and text less. I just want to know if I should be patient with him bc he is going through some drama right now, or am i expecting too much too soon from this guy. Wow. Ask him if hes willing to talk about how you two can come to some agreement on what works so you can continue. Sending you good vibes today! You should slow down, sister! Yes, I *want* to have a voice call with an online man Ive never met IRL, because thats not creepy or awkward, not at ALL, Hi Allyson. Facetime. I would LOVE to hear your texting stories and answer your questions about how to make it work for you whiledating or in your relationship. It really is a weird time in his life. Bp. Dont get hung up on fear of sounding needy, ok? However, we reconnected few weeks later. I like a male acquaintance. If that goes well, then get in the same room with him as soon as possible! Then he texted after the date. IMO 2015 or not, how someone chooses to use technology ought not be a pre-requisite to a mans worth as a partner. Dont know what Id label him, Kellie, but if he cant be okay with the way you live, then hes just not for you. So maybe next time youre on a trip, overlooking the most incredible view youve ever seen, just stop. I know too long! I actually really like this guy, and would like to see him again and see where things go from there. Now he tells me he misses me and wants me to be his girlfriend. Is he making a clear attempt to spend time with you? We havent even been out yet and hes already stating expectations. There are thousands more men out there. You can. Be smart and be careful. As far as I can tell, you are allowing him to make you your f-buddy. Bp. And when we meet he is always really affectionate with me even in front of people but via text he act like he doesnt care. We are still in the beginning stages, so I dont know how often I should expect to hear from him, and I know he is busy. I texted him two months later to encourage him and make sure he was ok. HI Sarah, If you have contacted him and hes not responding. Way to go! He is very busy setting up a new business and has kids. He texts first for about 85% of the time and he remembers everything. Very elusive and secretive, and Ive dated and just hooked up via internet dating in the past, so this isnt new. Should I try calling to see if he interested in an actuall phone convo. We meet up and we have good chemistry, despite being a bit awkward. Its been 9 months now, and he still rarely texts. I asked if he was still interested and he said he was, however, again, he never set up dates and when we finally did, he flaked two days in a row and I sent him a message how displeased I was with no response. ButI still find myself staring at my phone from time to time. I dont know enough to know if youre wasting your time, Laurie, but I DO know that you have some unrealistic expectations. He tells you how much he likes you and even acts super interested in your life. Bp, Been messaging this guy for over a week he asks if I want to go round to his house for coffee but I decline and say Ive not met you yet. Ive been texting a guy since March. Dont you want to special enough to be someone who he wants to see and be with? He sends pictures of him and his children and I enjoy the texts and seems to be moving forward but slowly has not asked inquired about an in person date and our texts are usually about our day to day activities and kids. The truth is, the love we seek can never be found outside of ourselves. Met a guy years ago at a house party he hosted. What if the tables were turned instead of a guy, a gal. A few days later, he texted me asking my plans for NYE, and I said nothing solid (this was a Weds, so an acceptable amt of time before the day he mentioned us going out). I do like this guy a lot. Sorry SoCal but you made a lot of mistakes here. During your road trip Id have a grownup conversation with him about whether hes looking for the same thing you are. A player or user guy will text you again in a few weeks wanting to see you that night. I had been hooking up with this guy for 2 months. Bp, We have been on several dates from Aug til Sept i didnt see him at all in Oct he has never been to my home and he dosent know where i live and i have never been to his home we meet somewhere and i get in the car with him and we go hang out i dont have tight schedule and he kinder do to we text back and forth daily the day and talk late night on the phone for hours when i try to flirt with him blow me off and i ll to ask him a personal question he will answer it but wont ask me back the question ill give him the answer but sometime im weary about if he really looking for a relationship or just a friendship he never ask me where i live but he does tell me how he appreciate me listening to him at time his text have been pretty dry. I have a guy that does this every month, or so. He school assessment finish at 10 am. Do I just leave it be now and move on? He is a man of writing, in all senses, and its one thing I like about him. The magic came from sharing values, sharing vibes, sharing energy. Then I said do you want to meet up for coffee he said yes , and that he is looking forward to it. Does this guy lack game or is he dating someone and is keeping me in the pool? So should I wait until our date and see what happens?? How can a stranger(me) be this important to him, just after very few days of texting?